You can't be friends with me, you are not crunchy enough.

I have only been a parent for two years come May.
My style of parenting is more like whatever works today may not work tomorrow so thank goodness its working right now. BUT! I consider myself more crunchy, my daughter eats mostly home made meals, snacks and our ( mostly mine cause lets get serious husband just hushes his mouth and agrees) philosophy is simple ( at least I think so) We talk to our daughter no matter what, when she has done something wrong we take her aside an tell her what happened, what we can do to fix it and, why we do or don't do something. Obviously in simple yet not half assed phrases..We spank only to show that is super dangerous we figure if we continue to do it for every little thing, it would eventually be funny or not taken seriously so far it works, we go to festivals , and we garden. I am really weirded out by foods and toxins and things so we eat out rarely and candy on a special occasion (besides her now one lolli pop a day after daycare, my husband thought it was a great idea! its one of those  little dum dums >.<)  don't get me wrong I eat fast food, and indulge in some yummy candy but it isn't something we eat everyday . I clean my house with all natural substances expect for the bath room something about those germs seem like they deserve lysol. We recycle make compost yeah yeah yeah  we are basically 70/30 in the whole crunchy realm

In the beginning I wanted to do it all, breastfeed, have a natural water birth, baby wear and, cloth diaper I wanted to be the full fledged natural momma whipping her goods out to feed her baby! ( laughing)

It didn't really work out that way, I didn't produce milk at all! at all! I ate every vitamin, cookie EVERYTHING! nothing happened. I felt this guilt  and I held it over my head, I was embarrassed to be feeding my kid a bottle. now, it wasn't a society thing it was an inner guilt of fuck what the hell am I good for? I can't even feed my baby, add my husband being deployed with a loooooong time to go before he would even return for R&R the baby blues hit me hard. Harder than I had even anticipated  ...the stress was horrible add being alone with her all day it was just intense I had this expectation to do everything perfect...

I get on a forum  for crunchy mommas and there it was the vaccine debate..
I was shunned basically for making the decision to vaccinate  ...from a group of people I had been talking to since my pregnancy. I felt so like holy shit really?  you are just going to ditch me because I don't agree with something you do?? I mean I thought we were adults( and friends as well) and people were entitled to their own opinion? WRONG!

They went on to say I was slowly murdering my child and how dare you! and blah blah blah hippie momma vomit...


My main thing is I have seen disease  in South America;although, it was with an indigenous tribe who have no connection really with western medicine. While I was there I saw a child die of whooping cough, it impacted me in such a way that I promised myself if I ever have children they will receive their vaccines.. I was one of those people who thought it was useless that it would cause autism ..That it was big pharmaceutical company's way of stealing money from the population even brain washing (rolls eyes, everyone is entitled to like something with out knowing the truth even if in the end it makes you an ignorant person for not doing research)   However I did learn not only by experience but with my Grandfather who was a Doctor and  who's specialty was  in infectious diseases. Helped  me see the bigger picture that it wasn't the devil and if she didn't have it who knows how sick she could get or what she could get.. things that have been eradicated could very well come back due to this crazy idea that our children don't need vaccines that it is useless and invasive.

I doubt they will be saying it the moment an epidemic or endemic arise, they will have wished they vaccinated their child.

BUT i'm not crunchy because I vaccinate my child bite me! I am not one thing or another I am just a momma trying to do the best by her baby!

You can keep you granola jargon I am sooo over it!

i'll just continue to do me and stick with the only other forum I use, SOLO OPS! They have NEVER EVER in like 5 years have let me down!!! so there you can have it, I am not going to waist my time explaining something you have no interest in hearing!